If I used to be that type of girl whose life emerges better without any emotional attachments to some guy, I am not that anymore. At times, I feel a clash coming between my upbringing and my now life. Many friends, family, even books advise to “Keep some for yourself” in which it meant – emotionally, spiritually, financially. And although my senses lean towards grasping on that advice, I simply don’t. Ralph’s departure only made me realize how I have given so much of my life to him and how our lives have been deeply intertwined in a little over two years. This forced and temporary separation leaves me feeling debilitated, crippled. It is as if I am Adam, who remains fully awake while God takes out one of his rib bones exposing my thoracic insides and even my rhythmless heart. It is simply that painful. Our weekend trip to Germany and Belgium answered why this part in me changed – Ralph, makes me feel alive without inflicting pain. My being, feeling and my strength does not necessarily have to be drawn out of extreme agony or emotional throes anymore, but of love and living loved. Moments spent with him – laughing at each other’s imperfections, surprise hugs, gentle kisses, holding hands – that’s when Ifeel the most. So though I know I will survive these few months, I know I will never survive life without him – not again, not ever.